I originally posted this on the Craiglist site to assist those who place ads and are looking for relationships. About 90% of the ads are obscene, vulgar and distasteful, not to mention shocking. (Nothing shocks me anymore about people) Therefore I will continue to post this article on a monthly bases. I received about 3 positive emails as a result of the article, with one of them listed here on my blog. There are many hurting and lonely people looking in all the wrong places for all the wrong reasons. It is time for Christians to reach out to them in a positive and productive way when ever possible.
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The Craiglist Post.
Yes I am a minister in the Full Gospel Church and no I am not looking for someone to date or marry. My hope is to post this to help one or two who may be discouraged, lonely, confused and afraid. I am a Vietnam veteran, a ex heroin addict and have been married for over 36 years to the same wonderful fun loving and Godly woman. We have a jail ministry, and counsel many people who can't seem to find their reason for living.
I have three grown children all married except my youngest at 28 who divorced after two years. My ex son-in-law is still very close and helps us often when we request it.
My daughter,like many women was attempting to find men in the world who only cared for what they could take from a women and not give. Self centered individuals do not offer respect, admiration and acknowledgment that God wants to place in all of us once we realize who we are and are willing to change for the better. What many women do not understand is that they are a very special, unique, and intelligent creation that has much to offer the right man and her family as an equal. When she comprehends that her beauty comes from the heart first and not just from the body she becomes more than an object that is treated like a second class citizen as she is in many countries.
Several people I have counseled forget that we are either a creation of evolution or a product of a loving kind, merciful Father who was the original creator of love, family and marriage for his glory and our pleasure. St John 3:16 Says, "That God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life with him one day." Can you imagine this world with perfected minds like Christ, a complete body in harmony and no more death and or sickness?
Adam said of Eve. "This is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh and I shall call her woman, because she is taken from man." In this line of thought. Two people can have intimacy and harmony that allows them to set their life's objectives beyond just physical and material things. When this is understood, then a man who loves the Lord and puts him first in everything, will also love his family and be joined with his wife not only in the flesh, but in the deep spiritual union that God intended. The responsibility of a man is not solely to bring home a pay check, but to lead his family in the direction of a Loving Creator.
As a young man running the streets between 15 and 22 and before I married my wife at age 22. I dated more women in Germany, Vietnam, and here than I care to remember including married ones. I admit this to my own shame as my mentality at that time was balanced by the world instead of Christ. I did not understand or realize what we humans in our short time of life, was here on this planet for. When someone who really cared came to me and told me that Jesus Christ could teach me about Love, because he first Loved each of us and I accepted that and acted on it. My whole life changed as well as my family.
I recently introduced my daughter to Christian web sites where she found a wonderful Canadian man that Loves the Lord as much as I do. They are now planning on marriage, attending a church together and building a family using the plan of God found in the scriptures. Believe me you can tell what is in the heart of a man or woman by listening to what comes out of the mouth. Actions are first conceived in the heart and then proceeds from the mouth which exposes us to the world and each other.
Susan and I attend Church together, pray together, vacation together, walk the beach together, hold hands together and work together. Projects include our 1976 Corvette restoration and other agreed objectives. I fully realize that she also has needs and interests that must to be addressed such as shopping, attention, understanding, listening and compliments. These are the attributes of any compatible working relationship.
With 36 years of marriage behind us we find it just gets better and more exciting. You can accomplish this when you realize that selfishness, anger, being self centered have no value in a relationship. Attention, touch, practicing cleanliness, respecting each other and giving are the ingredients needed to make a warm loving relationship. They become a guiding light as two people go through sickness, death, financial problems, and arguments in their marriage.
Do not entrust your emotions from sudden attention as love. Listen to the heart as it first comes from the mouth. It is not what you take from the table, but it is what you bring to the table that make a difference.
I welcome your comments and feedback. I understand there are those that will never grasp this and will die filled with fear, anger, misery and alone. The Bible says, "As a tree falls. That is how it will lay."
Read Romans 10:9, St John 4 chapter. St John 3 chapter.
Remember this! You are on this earth for much more than just yourself. Unless you find a man or woman that is willing to put God first then you will find that they will soon tire of you and look for another. Sex is like your favorite chocolate cake. When someone else bakes something you think is better you may run after it only to find it was the same as the old. You just had not learned to appreciate the cook who was offering it on a platter along with your slippers and and good night kiss.
God Richly Bless
Wishing you the very very best.
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